Tuesday 21 February 2023

Weighing up the best workout

Weighing up the best workout


Something happened to me last year. 


I turned 40.


And I don’t think my body likes it. 


I’m not one of these people to get too hung up on age. However, I’ve had a few people around me hit this milestone and comment on changes they experienced as a result.


For a couple of years now I’ve belonged to a local girls only gym so I’m surrounded by women of various ages and shapes and sizes. 


I enjoy going to the gym. Not just for the fitness side of things, but it also really helps me with my wellbeing and in switching off.


When I first joined I was on a pay as you go basis and always went to spin classes - hard, but something I knew and loved.


However, the instructors often encouraged me to try something new and mix it up a bit. 


So what to try?


Up until recently I had added a couple of different classes. I still kept lots of spinning up, but now I added in a ‘supple strength’ (stretching, strength and balance with yoga/pilates moves) class and ‘boxing bootcamp’, since pre kids I quite enjoyed boxercise with my other half (he used to do personal training). 


After I had twins, where I don’t drive (currently on my to do list to try and master this year) I walked everywhere - a combination of that and breast feeding I lost a lot of weight. I had 3 children 2 and under! 


However, since the children are now all out of buggies and don’t need me to chase after them so much I’ve really seen weight come back on. 


I’m always trying to find a balance of eating (I love food!) and exercise so that I don’t have to starve myself but also feel confident in my body/outfits I want to wear. 


I’ve always found spinning helped with that and would help my body shape to change when I noticed I’d been overdoing the eating side. 


Now don’t get me wrong I celebrated my 40th - my bank balance (or lack of) and my figure definitely reflect that. However, once I turned 40 in August something changed. My body changed big time.


I’d been getting pain in the lower part of my left leg and after a few calls and thankfully an in person appointment with a very helpful nurse then doctor, it was confirmed I’d got varicose veins there. Wow, now didn’t that make me feel old?!


Incidentally, since this I’ve had many people tell me how they or their partner have suffered with this and at earlier points in their lives. The doctor did also confirm it’s not an ‘old lady condition’ as I’d previously thought. Still, it was something new and not a particularly welcome change.


Soon after my birthday I also started to find my energy levels were dropping and the only way I can describe it is my body just felt tired and slower/stiffer. 


As if this didn’t annoy me enough, the best bit was yet to come.


My tummy - now I’ve suspected for some time I’m going through peri-menopause so this could be linked, we’ll save that for another post - suddenly won’t seem to reduce. It’s puffy, sticks out and even though I’d be exercising and watching what I ate it was still prominent as ever.


Not great for the confidence. And the spinning? It wasn’t changing my body shape like it used to.


Something had to change. 


Many of the gym instructors have said previously how we should be incorporating weights into our workouts - so many benefits and particularly as you approach/enter the menopause phase of your life. 


Lucky for me a new class hit our gym with a new instructor. I decided to give it a go. 


Shape and sculpt mixed cardio and weights and was a workout to work your whole body. 


It was hard, but I found I really enjoyed it. And for someone who has never been too fussed about weights, I was surprised to like that part a lot!


I started to do both the sculpt and boxing classes each Monday along with my other spin classes/stretch class on other days. 


Then our boxing bootcamp class was changed up - more like a circuits class now - and in parts incorporates weights.


Don’t get me wrong, it’s hard, I find it very hard and I often have moments where I’m well aware I’m not the strongest, fittest or most able in the session. But the buzz I get after? It’s so worth it.


Now we’ve just had half term and school holidays typically mean for me no gym and probably quite a bit of eating more unhealthy foods and drinking less water than usual. 


However, as per my previous post I’m currently doing a squat challenge during February and I’ve stuck to it. And 3 weeks in I can see/feel a difference from doing them physically as well as mentally.


Before the holidays, we started to do exercises with kettlebells in boxing and I liked them, so I decided to leave my comfort zone yet again and try another new class - kettlebells. 


Today was only my second class, but so far I’m really enjoying it and despite my ‘pigging out’ over half term break, I can feel a difference finally in my body. 


Everybody has been saying it for a while and finally I’ve listened!


So, have I found the answer to my workout weigh up? Is it weights? Well, for now, it certainly feels it could be…






Thursday 9 February 2023

Do you Mind if I squat?

 Do you Mind if I squat?


I’m always seeing people raising money for a good cause or setting themselves some sort of challenge. Randomly one evening whilst doing one of those mindless scrolls through social media something caught my eye - Squats Challenge.


As I looked again I saw this one in particular was for the mental health charity Mind. And that really got my attention.


Looking back I’ve always been a bit of a worrier, but during lockdown this reached a new level and I found myself visiting the doctors and soon receiving CBT for anxiety. 


The lady I spoke to via fortnightly phone calls really helped give me some tools to use and tips on how to manage my anxiety when it crept up. I still often refer to them now and watch/look at anxiety posts on various social platforms.


I won’t go into too much detail as it’s very personal, but there are a number of people around me who have their own struggles with mental health in some form and so it truly is very close to my heart. 


I’ve always felt that if I did something for charity I’d like it to be something relevant or close to me. 


Seeing as mental health affects so many of us and it’s even more prevalent nowadays, Mind seemed an ideal cause to raise money for.


I’m not going to be running a marathon anytime soon, but squats? Squats I felt could be manageable. 


What better than raising money for charity, than also potentially getting in shape in the process. 


It is slightly awkward given the current climate to ask people to part with money, therefore I’m feeling grateful for any donations. Although I really would like to raise as much as I can because I feel Mind is so important and worthwhile a cause. 


Cut to today, I’ve completed my ninth day of the challenge. As the name suggests for the 50 squats a day challenge, you need to complete 50 squats each day during the month of February. 


I’m combining the challenge alongside my usual gym classes so I’m really hoping it’ll help with my fitness and as with other exercise I do, benefit my wellbeing overall. 


So far I’m enjoying the challenge and liking the fact the kids are noticing too and sometimes wanting to join me! 


I’ll likely do a post another time about anxiety and what it can be like, but for now I’m going to go back to sticking my bum out, making sure my knees aren’t over my toes and trying to get a few extra pennies and pounds for Mind. 




Tuesday 7 February 2023

How long is enough?

 How long is enough?


Wow, so I’ve been religiously watching this Netflix series The Bold Type. Really enjoyed it and am a tad addicted I’ll admit.


It’s pretty easygoing watching and although mostly lighthearted, tackles a host of topics relating to gender, career, race, sexuality and more. Plus I’ve noticed it’s making me think back to my love of writing! 


What I wasn’t expecting however, was the sudden punch to my stomach I’ve just had. 


Somebody has just experienced a missed miscarriage. 


I’m shocked. 


I suffered a missed miscarriage back in 2015. 1st May to be exact I think it was.


I’ve detailed in previous posts my experience and my situation now, I have three children - a six (soon to be 7) year old and just turned 5 year old twins. 


We’re talking about an event that happened 8 years ago nearly now.


One, although I’ll never forget, I thought I’d made peace with.


That’s why I’m truly sitting here shocked at how I feel. It may only have been a short scene and I could tell what was coming. But the no heartbeat comment, no symptoms or sign of any issues, the happy excited couple being hurtled into a mix of shock, disbelief and utter heartache. It all was way too close to home and honestly? It took me right back to that day. 


I don’t get it.


I’ve seen other things, sadly heard lots of other people’s experiences of similar over the years since and I’ve handled it.


Today just a simple binge watch boxset program episode and it’s floored me. 


Why?


How does it work? We know everyone always says there is no right or wrong way or amount of time for dealing with grief. 


However, when you feel you’ve processed something painful in your life and it’s been a considerable amount of time since doing so, how comes something can set you off track again? 


Who knows, as I’m wound up by my kids constant bickering, pushing of boundaries, post school madness and messing up the house after I’ve just cleaned, maybe it’s a reminder of how precious those little monkeys are. 


A small wake up call to how short life is, how fast things can change and that maybe things aren’t so bad after all?